Friday, August 17, 2007

The follow-up

The follow-up appointment was wholly unproductive. I don't have any kind of resolution, reason it didn't work, excuses... nothing! After much hem and haw-ing the RE did say that if we were to do another cycle, that we wouldn't do an ET, instead freeze everything and do a transfer on a seperate cycle. There seems to be 2 issues that could be causing this: 1. implantation issues due to the medication of these IVF cycles, and/or 2. egg quality. Doing a FET on another cycle could circumvent any lining / implantation issues. On the latter, he said he'd talk to the embryologist about the egg q uality thing and get back to us on that. Uh, ok...

There is no clear cut reason to point to for why this last cycle didn't work. There could be many things. There could be 1 thing, there's no way to tell. Similarly frustrating is that there is also no clear path for what to do next. We've been asked a lot "what are you doing next?". When I answer "I have no idea", I'm really not being evasive, I simply don't know!

There are options. Thanks to the marvels of modern science. Egg donors and embryo donors would both involve me carrying a pregnancy to term. We don't know if my body can do that. (tho it's really good at making fat cells!) Adoption, both international and domestic, are also options. There are a lot more unknowns, as far as timing goes, with any of this. It's complicated. To throw another hitch in things, I would really like to have children that are (biologically) related to each other.
Clearly there are alot of things on the table. It will take Time to Work Things Out.

I still have no idea what is next.


Jenna said...

That is the hardest part. I remember sitting across from ym RE and thinking, "What do you mean you don't know what went wrong? WTH am I paying you for?" It's infuriating.

Cindy said...

Hugs to you, hon.

tryingin2007 said...

how can they NOT know? ugh!!!!!
I really believe that REs need to perform a ton of tests before you start IVF. it makes more sense to have an idea of what you are dealing with than having a failed cycle and working backwards.

I'm sorry. I wish you had some answers.